Parenting is so hard! You try your best, you fail, you ask for wisdom and then you try sone more. Yet the result is still the same, your child still does not want to change.
Most of the time, I am too proud to admit defeat, but this time I truly surrender. I don't have a solution to the problem and I honestly don't know how to help my child.
My child has become a habitual liar. She takes the easy way out by lying. I am very concerned over her behaviour and have counselled her many times to no avail. It has become a habit, she doesn't even think twice before she lies. As long as it is convenient, she'll lie.
God help her. God help me. God help us.
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Friday, July 16, 2010
Some people are hard to love
There should be a difference between pleasing God and pleasing man. I know there is. But what if you know that pleasing a certain person also means pleasing God?
Yes, there are certain people with us which if we please/honour them, it also pleases God. Members of our family come to mind, so does our spouses and church leaders. It is easy to honour and pay respect to some people but others.... Sometimes the way they behave just makes us want to tear our hair out! Some people are just not that easy to love!
It'll be good if we can just ignore those above us who rub us the wrong way but sometimes it is not possible especially if they are family.
I suspect God has His purpose in putting us in these 'can't get out of' situations. Because this where we can grow. Iron sharpens iron, remember? It is also in these situations that God reveals to us who we really are, selfish, bitter, uncompromising, prideful, ya, you get the drift! Unpleasant though it may be, but I believe if we surrender to God and confess our sins, not only will He forgive us but He will give us the strength and His agape love to love and honour those whom we love to hate.
Suddenly, I don't feel so bad about myself because I just realized, there is hope for me, yet!
Yes, there are certain people with us which if we please/honour them, it also pleases God. Members of our family come to mind, so does our spouses and church leaders. It is easy to honour and pay respect to some people but others.... Sometimes the way they behave just makes us want to tear our hair out! Some people are just not that easy to love!
It'll be good if we can just ignore those above us who rub us the wrong way but sometimes it is not possible especially if they are family.
I suspect God has His purpose in putting us in these 'can't get out of' situations. Because this where we can grow. Iron sharpens iron, remember? It is also in these situations that God reveals to us who we really are, selfish, bitter, uncompromising, prideful, ya, you get the drift! Unpleasant though it may be, but I believe if we surrender to God and confess our sins, not only will He forgive us but He will give us the strength and His agape love to love and honour those whom we love to hate.
Suddenly, I don't feel so bad about myself because I just realized, there is hope for me, yet!
Thursday, July 15, 2010
Some things need to change
During one of the rare conversations I had with my hubby the other day, the subject of how hospitals handle newborn babies came up.
Usually, unless we have friends in the medical fraternity, we seldom know about what happens to the babies right after they are born. We know they are taken to the nursery where the nurses clean them up, run some tests, give them a few shots etc but we really know for sure what really happens behind the scenes, so to speak.
When Stephanie was warded due to a lung infection, I was in the nursery a lot and I got the opportunity to observe what happens to newborns after they are taken from the labour room. Most newborns cry incessantly, which is understandable considering all that is done to him/her so shortly after being born. But what I could not comprehend is the fact that babies are left naked and alone to cry after everything is done.
It broke my heart to see the helpless babe struggling and crying under the blue light so I asked the staff nurse, "is the baby ill, why did you put her under the blue light?" She was surprised that I thought the baby was ill and said, oh, there's nothing wrong with the baby, she's getting "warmed up" under the light."
It then occured to me that this is standard procedure and that my babies must have all gone through the same harrowing experience minutes after they were born! I can't help but wonder who was the genius who thought that it is better to warm a naked baby under the light than in the comforting arms of her mother?? It is so unnecessary for the baby to be alone and obviously very afraid. I know that some would argue that the new mothers would need their rest, granted but at least the mothers should be given a choice. Even if the mother is too unwell to comfort the baby, I'm sure the babies' fathers or grandmothers would be more than happy to play the role, till the baby is assured and has calmed down.
It is no wonder that the babies are seen to be sleeping quietly when they are finally wheeled to the new parents, because they have exhausted themselves with all the crying!
I'm glad that for all my babies I have chosen to breastfeed totally because generally, the nurses will hand the baby to you within the hour of the birth to let the baby suckle and the milk flowing. So what they do is only a preliminary cleaning and tests and the baby is put in your comforting arms. I suspect that there's also less chance for the baby to cry for long periods.
No wonder home births are now gaining popularity in the west because truly, whatever that happens in the hospital, all the procedures are done for the benefit and conveniece of the hospital, not the patient.
Some things have to change, seriously.
Usually, unless we have friends in the medical fraternity, we seldom know about what happens to the babies right after they are born. We know they are taken to the nursery where the nurses clean them up, run some tests, give them a few shots etc but we really know for sure what really happens behind the scenes, so to speak.
When Stephanie was warded due to a lung infection, I was in the nursery a lot and I got the opportunity to observe what happens to newborns after they are taken from the labour room. Most newborns cry incessantly, which is understandable considering all that is done to him/her so shortly after being born. But what I could not comprehend is the fact that babies are left naked and alone to cry after everything is done.
It broke my heart to see the helpless babe struggling and crying under the blue light so I asked the staff nurse, "is the baby ill, why did you put her under the blue light?" She was surprised that I thought the baby was ill and said, oh, there's nothing wrong with the baby, she's getting "warmed up" under the light."
It then occured to me that this is standard procedure and that my babies must have all gone through the same harrowing experience minutes after they were born! I can't help but wonder who was the genius who thought that it is better to warm a naked baby under the light than in the comforting arms of her mother?? It is so unnecessary for the baby to be alone and obviously very afraid. I know that some would argue that the new mothers would need their rest, granted but at least the mothers should be given a choice. Even if the mother is too unwell to comfort the baby, I'm sure the babies' fathers or grandmothers would be more than happy to play the role, till the baby is assured and has calmed down.
It is no wonder that the babies are seen to be sleeping quietly when they are finally wheeled to the new parents, because they have exhausted themselves with all the crying!
I'm glad that for all my babies I have chosen to breastfeed totally because generally, the nurses will hand the baby to you within the hour of the birth to let the baby suckle and the milk flowing. So what they do is only a preliminary cleaning and tests and the baby is put in your comforting arms. I suspect that there's also less chance for the baby to cry for long periods.
No wonder home births are now gaining popularity in the west because truly, whatever that happens in the hospital, all the procedures are done for the benefit and conveniece of the hospital, not the patient.
Some things have to change, seriously.
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