Submission

Submission is a dirty word in the world today. It implies that the person who submit is a person who has no opinion, no rights and willingly or otherwise, play the doormat.

Admittedly, it is a difficult word for me too. I've always had a mind of my own, and I don't like to obey just for the sake of obeying. When I'm right, I want you to admit that I'm right, thank you very much!

So when the bible said that wives should submit to their husbands, I swallowed hard. I couldn't chuck that part of the bible out just because I didn't like it, because I also believe that when one takes the bible, one has to take the whole bible, not just the parts that appeal to one.

And so, I worked on that verse. When I had accepted the fact that it's a straightforward sentence with no room for "creative interpretation", I decided that it's easier to submit to a man whom I respected. So that was good because I could then separate the chaff from the wheat, so to speak (hey, I was popular back then, OK?)

So the man I respected had to love the Lord, love and obey His Word and also be compassionate. With that in mind, I told God that this is the guy I would like to have, You do the rest.

To cut the long story short, I now submit to my husband, not as much as he would like, but as much as I can, as long as I am aware. It is hard to bite my tongue especially when I totally disagreed with his actions. But God has shown me that when I choose to obey His Word and submit to the man I married, God can turn a bad decision around because ultimately, He is in control.

So I submit, or I should say, I try to submit, most of the time.

I'm still learning. Give me time.